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Oct. 12, 2022

How to ABOLISH Fear and become SUCCESSFUL with JM Ryerson

How to ABOLISH Fear and become SUCCESSFUL with JM Ryerson

In the 149th episode of Cash Flow Pro, we talk with JM Ryerson, founder, and leader of Let’s Go, Win, a coaching company dedicated to helping you win in your career and, more importantly, everyday life!    JM Ryerson...


 

 

In the 149th episode of Cash Flow Pro, we talk with JM Ryerson, founder, and leader of Let’s Go, Win, a coaching company dedicated to helping you win in your career and, more importantly, everyday life! 

 

JM Ryerson has built and successfully exited two companies that have created personal and financial freedom. JM created the Show Up As You system that helps you use your role as a leader to inspire the ambition and confidence your team needs to hit next-level success —individually and as a company. 

 

JM is here today to give us insight into how our mindset is the ONLY thing holding us back! It is important to abolish the fear blocking you from your dream life.

 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

  • Learned behavior and projection 
  • The power of CHOICE 
  • Failure vs. mistakes 
  • Fear of the unknown and financial freedom
  • What do you want? 

 

Tune in on this episode to ignite the leader in YOU!

 

Find your flow, 

Casey Brown

 

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

  1. www.letsgowin.com
  2. www.linkedin.com/company/letsgowin365 
  3. www.instagram.com/letsgowin365 
  4. www.twitter.com/letsgowin365 

 

Transcript

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[casey_]: hey there and welcome to today's episode
of cash flow pro your daily real estate

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[casey_]: investing podcast and youtube channel i'm here
today with james ryerson and we just talking

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[casey_]: prior to the show and i can't
wait for you all to hear what he's

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[casey_]: got to say and what kind of
just truth bombs and nuggets that he's going

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[casey_]: to drop right in your lap today's
kind of topic is the fear of financial

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[casey_]: freedom now with that being said before
we get into it i want to first

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[casey_]: of all ask this ubscribe ask the
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[casey_]: feed of piping up individuals such as
j j m here where we can just

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[casey_]: bring value to your life in general
so with that being said head down and

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[casey_]: smash that subscribe and and j m
welcome sir how are you

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[jm_ryerson]: okay i'm doing awesome brother thanks for
having me this will be a lot of

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[jm_ryerson]: fun man

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[casey_]: yeah absolutely man and i'm always good
to talk about mind set talk about limiting

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[casey_]: beliefs and actually no let me back
that up i'm cool with taking that and

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[casey_]: then like obliterating them okay and saying
hey just because and i'll tell you one

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[casey_]: of the one of the biggest struggles
that i have i've mentioned it probably at

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[casey_]: least one million times so i'm going
to mention it one million and one times

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[casey_]: on this show is is my daughter's
right and daughters are challenging from a lot

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[casey_]: of different perspectives and that's just that's
just truth of the matter um and i

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[casey_]: heard my daughter say one time dad
i can't do that i'm a girl right

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[casey_]: and i can't imagine a more limiting
belief than that right there like that that

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[casey_]: that was just like a flash bang
to me i was like wait i knew

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[casey_]: better never hear you say that again
and so as we move into and talk

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[casey_]: about the fear of financial freedom i
want to break down the limiting beliefs because

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[casey_]: a lot of people believe they can't
be financially free they believe like and i

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[casey_]: was put on this earth to get
up at to get up at six o'clock

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[casey_]: be at work by eight drop the
kids off at school somewhere in between come

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[casey_]: home at five cook eat dinner clean
up rents and repeat and so there we

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[casey_]: go an i'm gonna turn it over
to you and and i want you to

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[casey_]: give us some inside and how this
fear of financial freedom stuff really holds people

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[casey_]: back

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[jm_ryerson]: yeah man on kudos to you for
catching that i'm curious how how old is

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[jm_ryerson]: your daughter real fast before

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[casey_]: i've

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[jm_ryerson]: i dive

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[casey_]: actually

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[jm_ryerson]: into

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[casey_]: got

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[jm_ryerson]: it

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[casey_]: to my youngest is eight and seems
to have the lesser of the two of

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[casey_]: confidence

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[jm_ryerson]: yeah so these are learned behaviors right
you didn't teach them those are people around

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[jm_ryerson]: her that probably he her classmates maybe
it's another family amber but all these limiting

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[jm_ryerson]: beliefs if you asked her when she
was five or four that would not have

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[jm_ryerson]: come up because at that point she
hadn't learned that stuff and it does somehow

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[jm_ryerson]: creep in and that's for all of
us by the way from your parents to

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[jm_ryerson]: your grandparents to those closest around you
so often they will project their own limiting

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[jm_ryerson]: beliefs on to you well the problem
especially we're going to talk about money there

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[jm_ryerson]: is so much self sabotage that takes
place because people don't actually believe they're worthy

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[jm_ryerson]: of making i don't know a million
ten million a hundred million billion dollar whatever

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[jm_ryerson]: that number is there's a moment where
people don't feel comfortable and the question i

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[jm_ryerson]: like people to ask is why where
did that come from now for me casey

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[jm_ryerson]: i told you i try not to
use the word hate but i hate self

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[jm_ryerson]: limiting beliefs and i had it around
money as well because i remember as a

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[jm_ryerson]: kid my dad would talk about the
pretty people will

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[casey_]: m

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[jm_ryerson]: the pretty p meant that they were
at the country club they drove nice cars

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[jm_ryerson]: and i'm not sure why being pretty
was a negative thing but it just was

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[jm_ryerson]: and so i started to pick this
up as i got older in the is

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[jm_ryerson]: time i made over a million dollars
in a year i felt terrible case i

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[jm_ryerson]: literally i didn't feel good about myself
and i had this attachment to money and

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[jm_ryerson]: really what it was as these believe
that i had

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: inherited from my dad

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: who had inherited it from his dad
and etcetera etcetera and so this generrational thing

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[jm_ryerson]: that's happened for so many people the
reality is that's not your fault what you

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[jm_ryerson]: choose to do with that is because
eighty percent of our hard wires are given

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[jm_ryerson]: to us by the time we're five
years old that's why i asked how old

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[jm_ryerson]: your daughter because before five you are
absorbing everyone else they're telling you what you

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[jm_ryerson]: are what you're not what you re
what you're not and then as you start

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[jm_ryerson]: to come into this world as you
start to get let's say at school somebody's

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[jm_ryerson]: like well you can't do that you're
a girl and she believed that now thankfully

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[jm_ryerson]: you as a parent said no that's
malone you can do whatever you want

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[casey_]: for

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[jm_ryerson]: but not

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[casey_]: just for

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[jm_ryerson]: all those

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[casey_]: just for context i don't think i
said belloni

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[jm_ryerson]: i i wasn't sure if i could
cuss

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[casey_]: i

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[jm_ryerson]: or

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[casey_]: had

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[jm_ryerson]: not

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[casey_]: some

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[jm_ryerson]: so

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[casey_]: actually went down stairs and i had
some far more foul language to add to

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[casey_]: that

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[jm_ryerson]: i imagine

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[casey_]: i would

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[jm_ryerson]: you

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[casey_]: say

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[jm_ryerson]: did but

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[casey_]: i just

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[jm_ryerson]: i was

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[casey_]: never

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[jm_ryerson]: to

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[casey_]: i never imagined something like that would
would make me so furious just because you

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[casey_]: know there's a generation of parents and
i'm going to i'm going to throw this

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[casey_]: out

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[jm_ryerson]: m

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[casey_]: there and may very well offend some
listeners but it's the truth they're and i

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[casey_]: don't know if it's a generation thing
or maybe it was a small town thing

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[casey_]: i don't know there is generation of
parents out there who intentionally hold held held

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[casey_]: because i feel like it was it
was almost my generation before held

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[jm_ryerson]: hm

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[casey_]: their children back because they feared their
children would be more successful than they were

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[casey_]: and i can't imagine that that right
there that right there is a society limiting

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[casey_]: belief in gratiations

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[jm_ryerson]: there's no doubt brother s it's a
fact the way i grew up i'm forty

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[jm_ryerson]: four the way i grew up my
my parents generation they let us go outside

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[jm_ryerson]: they let us go you know fall
down and and being ourselves then came the

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[jm_ryerson]: helicopter my generation of parantine

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: we helecoptered way more and by the
way how do we best learn we best

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[jm_ryerson]: learned by somebody said and don't touch
the hot stuff no

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[casey_]: i know you touched hot stuff of
course

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[jm_ryerson]: that's just the way it goes and
so it's it is interesting and again i'm

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[jm_ryerson]: not i don't want to offend anybody
but it's just a fact my oldest we

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[jm_ryerson]: babied him far more than my youngest
well guess what my youngest

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[casey_]: oh

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[jm_ryerson]: is far more independent at this point
now these are all behaviours that we can

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[jm_ryerson]: unwind and getting back to the subject
of money you can one hundred percent unwind

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[jm_ryerson]: these self limited beliefs you had asked
me of fair do i have these system

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[jm_ryerson]: do so i'm going to give you
guys one that it's really simple and it's

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[jm_ryerson]: called the three arts so if you
have a fear let's say it's a fear

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[jm_ryerson]: around money which by the way money
is just a tool you can do so

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[jm_ryerson]: many amazing things with money but since
we're talking about let's go ahead so the

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[jm_ryerson]: first thing is to recognize whatever that
fear is whatever your fear is i i

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[jm_ryerson]: can't write that down so the first
is to recognize the thing you need to

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[jm_ryerson]: do is write it down the second
r s we're going to release it we

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[jm_ryerson]: are going to burn it we're going
to shred it we're gonna eat it i

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[jm_ryerson]: really don't care get rid of that
fear and then lastly you're just going to

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[jm_ryerson]: act in a hundred percent opposition so
if you're self limiting mind set is i

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[jm_ryerson]: can't afford x yes you can't go
ahead and do it because here's the thing

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[jm_ryerson]: you can choose to do anything you
want it is a choice and these self

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[jm_ryerson]: limited beliefs if we take full respon
stability for our actions that is your choice

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[jm_ryerson]: at this time just because you were
taught that you know making money was bad

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[jm_ryerson]: we all know that's not true so
let's get rid of the fear let's let's

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[jm_ryerson]: recognize it let's release it and then
react in opposition and brother i do that

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[jm_ryerson]: with any fears that come up and
guess what they're gonna pop up again and

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[jm_ryerson]: i'll do that m system again and
eventually i realize it's all nonsense

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[casey_]: hm

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[jm_ryerson]: all these things that we've learned they
were somebody else's insecurities someone else's fears someone

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[jm_ryerson]: else's failures and so that's not for
me that's just the store i've been telling

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[jm_ryerson]: myself for five years twenty years forties
whatever

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[jm_ryerson]: that number is you can rewind it

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: by just asking the question why

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[casey_]: something just occurred to me and and
i guess i want to i want to

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[casey_]: rewind back to when i said the
generation of parents that held us back um

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[casey_]: and i'm wondering i'm always wondering if
i'm almost wondering right now if maybe that

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[casey_]: hold back was due to fear of
failure um

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[jm_ryerson]: one thousand percent if you're asking my
opinion

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[casey_]: just because

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[jm_ryerson]: one

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[casey_]: i rather than rather than saying your
parent didn't want you to be more successful

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[casey_]: than they were that's almost it could
almost have the same it could almost come

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[casey_]: out as the same as i don't
want my kids to be failures i want

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[casey_]: my kids to be successful it's merely
it's merely a translation thing honestly you know

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[casey_]: what i'm saying and the fear of

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[casey_]: failure

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[jm_ryerson]: do i'm going

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[casey_]: like

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[jm_ryerson]: to give you an example of this

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[casey_]: mike

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[jm_ryerson]: the first

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[casey_]: go ahead

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[jm_ryerson]: sorry

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[casey_]: i was just going to say man
i mean i want my kids fail at

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[casey_]: times if that makes sense not that
i definitely do not want my kids to

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[casey_]: be failures but if they don't fail
and i see that so so much and

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[casey_]: and several of the people i grew
up with parents were so scared of them

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[casey_]: being failures that now they're drug addicts
because they never had to serve any consequences

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[casey_]: they never got their but they never
got their vehicle taken away they never got

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[casey_]: there phone taking that they had everything
they wanted or needed always because their parents

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[casey_]: did not want them to be a
failure so much so that they debilitated them

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[casey_]: on

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[jm_ryerson]: and

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[casey_]: go ahead

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[jm_ryerson]: failure is it's not an actual thing
right you you the only reason you would

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[jm_ryerson]: fail is if you quit

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: right you may make mistakes but it's
just a learn you learn from it so

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[jm_ryerson]: i'm going to give you an example
of my experience with my own dad when

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[casey_]: oh

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[jm_ryerson]: went to become an entrepreneur

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i was really excited dad i got this

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how much is a salary i oh there's

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they must have amazing benefits and i'm like

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[casey_]: go

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[casey_]: to work my ass

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[casey_]: off

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[jm_ryerson]: my cause he's like what the f
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[casey_]: that's

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[jm_ryerson]: had worked for the same company for
thirty five years and having that steady salary

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[jm_ryerson]: and those benefits which by the way
there's nothing wrong with it

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[casey_]: that's

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[jm_ryerson]: but

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[jm_ryerson]: for me for me what i wanted
i wanted no limit to how much i

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could do like if i wanted to come

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for me for my dad that wasn't his

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[casey_]: m

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[jm_ryerson]: cool but had i

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[jm_ryerson]: listened to him i wouldn't have taken
the road i did which ended

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[casey_]: yes

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[jm_ryerson]: up being exactly what i needed man
i'm an entrepreneur at heart i love to

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[jm_ryerson]: build things i love to create i
love make a lot of money so i

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[jm_ryerson]: so that to your point brother it
wasn't that my dad didn't want

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[jm_ryerson]: me to succeed he just the fear
of the unknown the fear of not having

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[jm_ryerson]: a salary that was just not his
experience and that's scary as apparent when you

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[casey_]: that's right and and so again it's
all a translation and ye you're your father

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[casey_]: that that that age group i guess
or not age i guess i shouldn't i

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[casey_]: definitely should stop kind of combining everything
because everybody really was raised differently but the

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[casey_]: idea that okay that's great how much
is the salary right and that's how he

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[casey_]: measured success or that's how he measured
what you could do and i think another

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[casey_]: fear of of parents especially my generations
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[casey_]: support our own once we got like
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[casey_]: via supporting

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[casey_]: our kids the way that they financially
supported us i'm talkin bout purely financial not

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[casey_]: not because i was i was i
was very fortunate i was very um morally

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[casey_]: supported if you will like like i
didn't i didn't lack for support in my

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[casey_]: area so that should be told as
well but financially i think because because sometimes

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[casey_]: i look at my kids and i'm
like go damn are you you're never going

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[casey_]: to make it in this world like
that i mean the first thing you do

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[casey_]: is get up more where's my pet
i'm like early can we get underwear and

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[casey_]: shoes and socks and dressed and teeth
brushed and then worry about the dam i've

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[casey_]: had no it's that and so i
look at my kids i'm like all right

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[casey_]: how are these how are they and
i'm like but then i stop okay stop

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[casey_]: right there because your parents thought the
same thing about you um but do you

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[casey_]: see like how what i guess my
point here is imagine amaze with a bunch

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[casey_]: of where corners and at every turn
there's limiting limiting limiting everything is limiting and

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[casey_]: it is it's a maze of sorts
that you have to weave around and through

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[casey_]: and look and and it's it's a
proverbial maze get past all that

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[jm_ryerson]: i mean it really is and look
i don't fault any of these parents

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[casey_]: yes

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[jm_ryerson]: generationally

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[jm_ryerson]: we can generalize on how it was
then versus now versus the future look parents

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were different generations that have done it differently

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[jm_ryerson]: again the way i was raised versus
the way i've watched my kids be raised

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[jm_ryerson]: it's just a different now what i
have learned is i don't want to put

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[jm_ryerson]: any restrictions on what my kids can
do so my my oldest son he's he's

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[jm_ryerson]: going to be the number one tennis
player in the world i could say all

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[jm_ryerson]: the reasons he won't i could list
it out why that's not going to happen

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[jm_ryerson]: by the way it's not my journey
it's his if he chooses to pursue it

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[jm_ryerson]: and he's willing to put in the
work and he's willing to do everything it

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[jm_ryerson]: just say that happens guess what he
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[jm_ryerson]: very best and nobody told him he
couldn't along the way even though there's lots

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[jm_ryerson]: of people that will coaches he'll have
buddies that will be like you're not talented

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[jm_ryerson]: enough you're not tall enough you're not
whatever say whatever it is but the fact

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[jm_ryerson]: is and i love what you're doing
with your show because look you're educated somebody

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[jm_ryerson]: on financial freedom you're educating people on
financial literacy these are not things that have

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[jm_ryerson]: been taught in our traditional curriculum they're
still not today if you want true occasion

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[jm_ryerson]: reform it starts with the mind set
and that's why when when you and i

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[jm_ryerson]: were talking of air i was like
brother i can talk

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: about investing i could do that but
the truth is it starts up here until

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[jm_ryerson]: people realize and really believe they are
worthy of attaining whatever that goal is it's

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[jm_ryerson]: not going to matter because they'll reach
that goal and then those self sabotage anyway

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[jm_ryerson]: you see it with lottery winners all
the time an they get all this money

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[jm_ryerson]: in but they have no financial literacy
and they blow it on all kinds of

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[jm_ryerson]: things because they don't think they're worthy
of having that money and it's a tragic

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[jm_ryerson]: hal but that's why i love what
you're doing

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[casey_]: yeah well you know i told my
mother the other day this just happened couple

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[casey_]: days ago i was talking on the
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going on how the podcast is going et

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[casey_]: cetera et cetera et cetera and she
was talking about um one time she she

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[casey_]: was dealing with she went to church
or something with a commercial real estate agent

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[casey_]: and my mom and step dad wanted
to sell their house or someth in and

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[casey_]: the commercial real said i just said
i don't i don't do deals like that

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[casey_]: they're just they're just too small i
just don't do it and i had to

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[casey_]: explain to her that why she was
like i just never imagined a real stage

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[casey_]: and would say they couldn't and i'm
like listen hey there's people who if i

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[casey_]: knew there if i know they're on
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[casey_]: they're calling me i wouldn't take ten
thousand dollars to answer the phone and talk

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[casey_]: to him you see what i'm saying
because and and what i told her and

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[casey_]: this was a limiting belief of hers
was not all money is created equal because

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[casey_]: the time that it takes to get
some of it and the sacrifices that it

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far greater than what other avenues you could

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[casey_]: take right and she was just astonished
that i would even make the comment that

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[casey_]: there's people who could call my phone
i would not answer for ten grand i

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[casey_]: mean now that's obviously an extreme that
that's how i typically frame things up or

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[casey_]: tea things up to talk about but
the the extreme of that is obviously if

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[casey_]: i knew i could say hello and
hang up for ten grand absolutely but the

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[casey_]: bottom line is as if i had
the if i had the understanding my body

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to fulfill whatever expectation was on the other

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[casey_]: end of that line for ten grand
there's no way no matter what it is

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[casey_]: that i would do because they're just
complicated people right and so

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[jm_ryerson]: they're not in alignment with

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[casey_]: that's

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[jm_ryerson]: you right

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[casey_]: right that's

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[jm_ryerson]: that's all

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[casey_]: and that's a very good term because
that's one thing that in our investing business

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[casey_]: rather you know that we that we
really point on and we really hound and

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[casey_]: one of the culture that bring to
it is alignment of interest alignment of interests

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[casey_]: is of absolutely the most upmost importance
to us and our success and our business

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[casey_]: because as soon as you get out
of that as soon as you're like man

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[casey_]: to hell with you i'm worried about
me you're going to have a hard time

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[casey_]: getting people to invest and come on
board and say hey let's let's work with

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[casey_]: you so that's just just some some
thoughts there but you know i want to

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[casey_]: get into the fear of financial freedom
specifically because so many people literally go to

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[casey_]: work come home go to bed at
night and then and they have these aspirations

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[casey_]: or these thoughts of you know what
man my kid had a field trip yesterday

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[casey_]: and right just i couldn't get off
i've already used all my vacation time i

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[casey_]: couldn't get off to go on to
the candy factory with him or her and

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[casey_]: then they're like man that yeah over
there you know he owns his own business

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[casey_]: he works for himself he does this
and he seems to always be able to

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[casey_]: do whatever he wants to do and
all right john let's do this i don't

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[casey_]: know what james stands for t i'm
not talking to you if it's john but

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[casey_]: all right john let's do this okay
so quit your job find something you're passionate

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[casey_]: about figure out how to monetize it
guess what you can take off on field

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[casey_]: trip days you can leave your secretary
to answer the phone and go take off

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[casey_]: on field trip days that's if that's
if that's value to you then make that

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[casey_]: happen don't just take a sucker punch
to the gut and turn around and walk

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[casey_]: away make it happen

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[jm_ryerson]: yeah look man everybody compromises on in
life and they choose these things because that's

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[jm_ryerson]: what they were taught that's what they
think their value is into your question with

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[jm_ryerson]: financial freedom look if someone can do
it you can as well so for instance

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[jm_ryerson]: elon musk most people don't know this
they think that he has this brilliant i

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[jm_ryerson]: q he's actually not

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[casey_]: uh

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[jm_ryerson]: when it comes to his i q
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[jm_ryerson]: very middle of the road the difference
what most people don't realize is he has

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[jm_ryerson]: vision he has courage you could say
he has whatever cohoneis whatever you want to

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[jm_ryerson]: call

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[casey_]: yep

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[jm_ryerson]: it and he's willing to put himself
out there he wasn't born gifted for being

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[jm_ryerson]: the smartest man alive in fact the
smartest man alive died extremely poor and had

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[jm_ryerson]: very little because he wasn't able to
relate my point is these are all stories

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[jm_ryerson]: that we tell ourselves just like you
talked about can't leave the candy shop i

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[jm_ryerson]: think you're the candy store you said
to go on the field trip that's just

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[jm_ryerson]: a mindset it's a hundred per cent
that's your choice and that's cool like look

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[jm_ryerson]: if you love that just know your
compromise your sacrifice is you're not going to

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[jm_ryerson]: be able to take your child to
the field trip those are all choices

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: you can choose to remove yourself from
that you can choose to be financially free

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[jm_ryerson]: but it is your choice you are
not a victim no one on this well

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[jm_ryerson]: in this country i'll say i'll go
there i can't speak to other countries because

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[jm_ryerson]: i haven't been to all of them
in our country it is a choice you

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[jm_ryerson]: can choose to

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[jm_ryerson]: be free financially spiritually whatever your thing
is but let's say financially or you can

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[jm_ryerson]: choose not to be and that's okay
just

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[casey_]: no

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[jm_ryerson]: as long as you can

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[casey_]: oh

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[jm_ryerson]: cept that it's your choice then then
we can agree on

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[casey_]: yeah

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[jm_ryerson]: that

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[casey_]: and that's and that's so so if
you if you go back to the example

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[casey_]: of my daughter right and you'll realize
the way you just framed it up it's

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[casey_]: a little bit of a balancing act
because at the same time now if she

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work minimum wage job or or a minor

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[casey_]: wage job we say a minimum wage
job whatever if she grows up and decides

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[casey_]: that she just wants a minimalist existence
know what that's okay too and i for

395
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[casey_]: one

396
00:23:47,032 --> 00:23:54,444
[casey_]: to look at how you can make
that justification is based on her scale of

397
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[casey_]: happiness right hey some people want to
leave work go home and forget about it

398
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:06,227
[casey_]: hey don't want to have to go
home and think about forty eight different things

399
00:24:06,387 --> 00:24:10,694
[casey_]: ratcheting around and moving and all these
pieces of this puzzle that they want to

400
00:24:10,734 --> 00:24:13,559
[casey_]: go work their eight hours and they
want to go home and forget about it

401
00:24:13,599 --> 00:24:17,850
[casey_]: and have a couple of beers and
go to bed and that is fine that's

402
00:24:17,930 --> 00:24:22,758
[casey_]: perfectly acceptable i don't think i just
don't want people thinking that's what we're we're

403
00:24:23,419 --> 00:24:27,165
[casey_]: saying that hey just because you do
that you're a failure because you're not my

404
00:24:27,245 --> 00:24:31,456
[casey_]: daughter any of my sons any of
who any of my kids if that's what

405
00:24:31,496 --> 00:24:36,395
[casey_]: they decide they want to do and
that makes them happy and they they're good

406
00:24:36,637 --> 00:24:41,737
[casey_]: people tax paying citizens of this country
so be it i just want them to

407
00:24:41,777 --> 00:24:44,527
[casey_]: know that that doesn't that doesn't have
to be that way if they don't want

408
00:24:44,567 --> 00:24:44,828
[casey_]: it to be

409
00:24:46,142 --> 00:24:50,442
[jm_ryerson]: ah then you nailed it brother my
best friend in the whole world he is

410
00:24:50,642 --> 00:24:56,987
[jm_ryerson]: wildly gifted and i actually i tried
to tell him because i hired him to

411
00:24:57,068 --> 00:25:01,955
[jm_ryerson]: be part of where i was at
at the time my second company and i

412
00:25:02,077 --> 00:25:06,484
[jm_ryerson]: was like tory is his name i
was like tory you could make bla bla

413
00:25:06,544 --> 00:25:12,385
[jm_ryerson]: bla and he could but he didn't
enjoy it and to your point he wants

414
00:25:12,445 --> 00:25:15,147
[jm_ryerson]: to be able to go to work
and come home and by the way that's

415
00:25:15,247 --> 00:25:17,890
[jm_ryerson]: okay i can't want it more for
him

416
00:25:17,744 --> 00:25:18,292
[casey_]: that's right

417
00:25:18,290 --> 00:25:18,790
[jm_ryerson]: than he wants

418
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:19,302
[casey_]: there you go

419
00:25:19,291 --> 00:25:19,491
[jm_ryerson]: self

420
00:25:19,986 --> 00:25:21,717
[casey_]: nail on the head under percent

421
00:25:23,462 --> 00:25:27,369
[jm_ryerson]: so it is a choice and that's
why but your listeners the ones that are

422
00:25:27,429 --> 00:25:31,275
[jm_ryerson]: here that want to be financially free
look some of these things are you just

423
00:25:31,335 --> 00:25:35,391
[jm_ryerson]: got to face them you got to
look and say am i self sabotaging yes

424
00:25:35,452 --> 00:25:40,196
[jm_ryerson]: is the story i'm telling myself supporting
what i'm trying to do or is it

425
00:25:40,276 --> 00:25:44,240
[jm_ryerson]: not here's the hardest one this one
is going to suck for people but you

426
00:25:44,340 --> 00:25:47,775
[jm_ryerson]: got to hear it the people you're
surrounding yourself

427
00:25:47,790 --> 00:25:47,971
[casey_]: oh

428
00:25:47,855 --> 00:25:53,404
[jm_ryerson]: with are they supporting you and lifting
you up or they dragging you down there

429
00:25:53,584 --> 00:25:58,482
[jm_ryerson]: is no middle ground by the way
and i hope you hear this clearly people

430
00:25:58,602 --> 00:26:02,589
[jm_ryerson]: either lift you up where they bring
you down there is no one between

431
00:26:02,633 --> 00:26:03,099
[casey_]: hundred per

432
00:26:03,070 --> 00:26:03,170
[jm_ryerson]: and

433
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:03,403
[casey_]: cent

434
00:26:03,270 --> 00:26:08,459
[jm_ryerson]: if you're not succeeding to the level
that you want to be start to look

435
00:26:08,559 --> 00:26:10,041
[jm_ryerson]: at starting

436
00:26:09,729 --> 00:26:09,750
[casey_]: m

437
00:26:10,101 --> 00:26:16,409
[jm_ryerson]: to replace supplement change who's around you
and i know that can be painful trust

438
00:26:16,449 --> 00:26:18,251
[jm_ryerson]: me i've gone through it with family
members as well

439
00:26:18,540 --> 00:26:18,766
[casey_]: yeah

440
00:26:18,952 --> 00:26:26,126
[jm_ryerson]: here's a deal it's just that there
success level their lifestyle it's not yours unless

441
00:26:26,166 --> 00:26:29,350
[jm_ryerson]: you choose it to be and it's
cool but let's be clear it is your

442
00:26:29,410 --> 00:26:29,691
[jm_ryerson]: choice

443
00:26:29,750 --> 00:26:37,777
[casey_]: that's right and man that's you can't
you couldn't have put it any better because

444
00:26:38,860 --> 00:26:44,782
[casey_]: and and grant cardon lord help him
you know we've he and i've talked a

445
00:26:44,842 --> 00:26:51,833
[casey_]: couple of times and and he is
very to the point blow hard you know

446
00:26:51,993 --> 00:26:58,445
[casey_]: that's how he is but in one
of his books he said to he said

447
00:26:58,485 --> 00:27:05,784
[casey_]: that exact exactly what you just said
they're not helping you get to where you

448
00:27:05,864 --> 00:27:13,743
[casey_]: want to be get rid of them
it's painful but somebody is either you're right

449
00:27:13,884 --> 00:27:19,272
[casey_]: somebody is either pushing you up they're
holding you back and if they're holding you

450
00:27:19,312 --> 00:27:22,876
[casey_]: back you don't have time for that
you don't have room for them if this

451
00:27:23,097 --> 00:27:24,859
[casey_]: is what you want in life

452
00:27:27,542 --> 00:27:31,268
[jm_ryerson]: yeah that question is such a big
one what do you want you know what

453
00:27:31,529 --> 00:27:36,016
[jm_ryerson]: is really what do you want and
then once you figure that out how do

454
00:27:36,056 --> 00:27:36,657
[jm_ryerson]: you go get it

455
00:27:36,830 --> 00:27:36,971
[casey_]: yeah

456
00:27:36,978 --> 00:27:38,440
[jm_ryerson]: life is not that complicated

457
00:27:38,370 --> 00:27:38,670
[casey_]: it's really

458
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:38,781
[jm_ryerson]: if you

459
00:27:38,730 --> 00:27:38,971
[casey_]: i tell

460
00:27:38,841 --> 00:27:39,001
[jm_ryerson]: think

461
00:27:39,051 --> 00:27:39,111
[casey_]: my

462
00:27:39,061 --> 00:27:39,202
[jm_ryerson]: about

463
00:27:39,171 --> 00:27:39,512
[casey_]: daughters

464
00:27:39,202 --> 00:27:39,364
[jm_ryerson]: yes

465
00:27:39,552 --> 00:27:42,496
[casey_]: that all the time i know we
keep talking my daugherbut i'm like honey i'm

466
00:27:42,537 --> 00:27:48,867
[casey_]: like baby listen okay life's not that
complicated honey just because the sucker broken half

467
00:27:48,947 --> 00:27:54,681
[casey_]: doesn't mean that now are whole day
is ruined okay eat figure out a way

468
00:27:54,721 --> 00:27:58,289
[casey_]: to eat it let's let's let's tackle
this and let's go i've been talking a

469
00:27:58,309 --> 00:28:01,195
[casey_]: lot about candy maybe maybe i need
some sugar or something i don't know

470
00:28:03,013 --> 00:28:06,739
[jm_ryerson]: but you know what i love case
about talking about your kids because we see

471
00:28:06,859 --> 00:28:12,164
[jm_ryerson]: these behaviors and we can help guide
them to correct some of those behaviors but

472
00:28:12,646 --> 00:28:17,346
[jm_ryerson]: but to your point look for instance
let's just talk about designing your day for

473
00:28:17,386 --> 00:28:20,652
[jm_ryerson]: a quick second there's lots of books
on this but let's just start with a

474
00:28:20,772 --> 00:28:23,697
[jm_ryerson]: simple thing you get to choose how
you're going to start your day

475
00:28:23,670 --> 00:28:23,792
[casey_]: yep

476
00:28:23,917 --> 00:28:26,201
[jm_ryerson]: so for instance talked about maybe

477
00:28:26,145 --> 00:28:26,166
[casey_]: a

478
00:28:26,241 --> 00:28:27,223
[jm_ryerson]: it was so maybe it was your

479
00:28:27,210 --> 00:28:27,458
[casey_]: yeah

480
00:28:27,263 --> 00:28:31,854
[jm_ryerson]: daughter finding the eye pat now if
that's something you do let's just take your

481
00:28:31,914 --> 00:28:34,500
[jm_ryerson]: listeners for a moment the first thing
you do is you look at your phone

482
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:35,448
[casey_]: oh

483
00:28:35,242 --> 00:28:39,609
[jm_ryerson]: guess what you are now on someone
else's agenda you're not on your

484
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:39,942
[casey_]: yep

485
00:28:39,809 --> 00:28:45,499
[jm_ryerson]: own so in my quick example before
my foot touches the ground and brother i

486
00:28:45,539 --> 00:28:49,849
[jm_ryerson]: don't care how bad i got to
go p before that foot touches the ground

487
00:28:49,949 --> 00:28:52,877
[jm_ryerson]: to go run to the bathroom because
that's my routine is like you know

488
00:28:52,860 --> 00:28:53,224
[casey_]: oh

489
00:28:52,957 --> 00:28:54,220
[jm_ryerson]: get up and go and go the
rest room

490
00:28:54,750 --> 00:28:55,800
[casey_]: yeah

491
00:28:55,332 --> 00:29:00,179
[jm_ryerson]: i think i think and if my
wife's awake i'll verbalize it if she's not

492
00:29:00,279 --> 00:29:05,223
[jm_ryerson]: i'll just say it in my head
three things i'm grateful for when i start

493
00:29:05,363 --> 00:29:06,346
[jm_ryerson]: my day that way

494
00:29:06,330 --> 00:29:06,571
[casey_]: oh

495
00:29:06,406 --> 00:29:08,610
[jm_ryerson]: guess what i have a really good
day

496
00:29:08,491 --> 00:29:08,634
[casey_]: yep

497
00:29:09,322 --> 00:29:13,085
[jm_ryerson]: but if i pick up the phone
and there's an email and there's like someone

498
00:29:13,145 --> 00:29:17,990
[jm_ryerson]: else is agenda and typically it's not
positive especially for going to social media or

499
00:29:18,130 --> 00:29:19,962
[jm_ryerson]: media in general guess what

500
00:29:20,220 --> 00:29:20,405
[casey_]: yeah

501
00:29:20,423 --> 00:29:24,329
[jm_ryerson]: i typically have a bad day so
it's really not complicated just

502
00:29:24,061 --> 00:29:24,223
[casey_]: yeah

503
00:29:24,630 --> 00:29:29,879
[jm_ryerson]: a line whatever goal you want and
start being intentional i want to have an

504
00:29:29,959 --> 00:29:35,430
[jm_ryerson]: amazing day cool let's talk about being
grateful just verbalize it then go take care

505
00:29:35,450 --> 00:29:38,858
[jm_ryerson]: of your mind your body your soul
if you do those simple things if you

506
00:29:38,918 --> 00:29:44,177
[jm_ryerson]: do those three things in your first
hour half hour you will one hunder percent

507
00:29:44,238 --> 00:29:44,698
[jm_ryerson]: win the day

508
00:29:44,780 --> 00:29:44,904
[casey_]: yeah

509
00:29:45,019 --> 00:29:48,865
[jm_ryerson]: or you could let somebody else is
agent run now and again this people like

510
00:29:48,905 --> 00:29:52,812
[jm_ryerson]: why are we talking about this because
if you want to be financially independent and

511
00:29:52,993 --> 00:29:59,409
[jm_ryerson]: free and make sound decisions you should
be intentional about what you're doing don't haphazardly

512
00:29:59,469 --> 00:30:00,110
[jm_ryerson]: go through life

513
00:29:59,960 --> 00:30:07,883
[casey_]: yeah and that's an you know starting
your day is is one of those things

514
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,804
[casey_]: that i think a lot of people
overlook and you're you're exactly right when you

515
00:30:11,844 --> 00:30:15,791
[casey_]: look at it as when you look
at it as a tipping point whether you're

516
00:30:15,851 --> 00:30:20,799
[casey_]: on your time or whether you're on
somebody else's time and right here is groggy

517
00:30:21,221 --> 00:30:28,460
[casey_]: just waking up coming to life and
you tip you automatically tip your scale to

518
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:33,384
[casey_]: being on somebody else's time man that's
your your your spot on with that dude

519
00:30:33,684 --> 00:30:37,347
[casey_]: i mean that's that's that's an unbelievable
way to look at it because if you're

520
00:30:37,408 --> 00:30:42,067
[casey_]: like hey man no this is my
time this is my time and my time

521
00:30:42,127 --> 00:30:47,552
[casey_]: meaning it's my time to profess what
i'm like you said whether you don't even

522
00:30:47,592 --> 00:30:51,899
[casey_]: have to profess what you're grateful for
just profess you know what you're going to

523
00:30:51,919 --> 00:30:56,587
[casey_]: accomplish today or just profess what you're
going to and and i'm like you when

524
00:30:56,647 --> 00:30:58,715
[casey_]: you verbalize it at changes right

525
00:31:14,460 --> 00:31:14,785
[casey_]: oh